Finalization

We had our finalization on Monday! Miss A is officially ours.

To me, court was merely a formality. I know it’s important, but she has been our daughter from day one, and I don’t think I could love her more just because a judge signed a paper. Is it bad to think that way?

We had a nice lunch with our family of four to celebrate. No one else was able to make the hearing, so it was just us four. My favorite part was where the judge said:
As I was watching you through this hearing, there is no doubt in my mind that this little girl belongs in your family. Congratulations, you are now a family of four.

MHH

“Crazy Hair”

I feel like I’ve failed my son today.

We were standing in line at the store, the same store where this happened, and a little boy about 4 said, “He has crazy hair!”

I deflected the insult with humor. “Oh, this isn’t crazy. You should have seen it yesterday!”

I didn’t think he even understood what was happening.

But my boy, my Little B, did understand. He started rubbing his hair and looking sad. It was one of those situations where I didn’t know what to say, so I didn’t say anything at all. In hindsight, I have a million things I could have said…should have said. But I didn’t do anything to stick up for my little guy.

Once I walked away, all I could do was tell him how much I loved his hair. And everything about him. He certainly understood that.

In the future, I’m going to get out my teacher voice and proclaim, “That wasn’t very nice!” I need to start getting my responses ready, because my son deserves a mom who will stand up for him. Whether it’s an innocent comment from a four year old, or a racist comment from a grown man. He doesn’t deserve to feel inferior because of his hair or skin color.

No one does.

Tricks and Treats

Happy Halloween!

(Yes, we reused last year’s costume. It still fit, and it’s adorable. I only feel a little guilty about it.)

Life

My life is so full right now. Having two kids gives me no time for blogging these day because I want to soak up every precious second with them. I think my blogging gig might be coming to an end….soon.

MHH

Big Brother

Little B is an amazing Big Brother! I was a little worried there might be jealousy, but so far things are going very well.

He always wants to kiss his sister.

He is always entertaining her by singing and dancing.

When I take Miss A’s picture for her monthly updates, he always jumps up on the couch to sit next to her.

I’m sure it won’t always be like this, but I am sure enjoying the sweet Big Brother.

1st Post Placement Visit

Today was our first post placement visit. Things went well. Little B put on a little ham fest. It was all cute and great, but then his morning at The Little Gym caught up with him and he was whining and crying towards the end. Oh well. At least the social worker knows I can handle it. Miss A slept through the whole thing.

The first post placement visit was basically a bunch of questions about Miss A’s health, how we’re all adjusting, and making sure we sent our monthly letter to the birth mother. It’s definitely easier the second time around because we knew what to expect. The final visit will be in three months.

Things are finally calming down around here. I hope to get into blogging more often now that we are settling into being a family of four. I’m not sure where this blog will go from here though. I’ll post our story soon. And of course, more pictures.

Tired

We’re so tired around here…but happy. Miss A is a bit more fussy than Little B was, but we’re coping.

“my cup runneth over”

More later.

MHH

Beauty

It’s a girl!
Introducing Miss A
7 lbs. 13.4 ounces, 19.5 inches long

We are so in love!